Inspired

I met an incredible group of trans women last night. Out celebrating a milestone for a mutual friend we laughed, had drinks and told stories about our lives to get to know one another. As the other party guests left and there were just a small group of us, they opened and shared many of their struggles. I felt so grateful to be trusted and welcomed. I felt honored to share the stories of their journey which are often guarded. As i drove home and thought about the great evening, i kept thinking about how hard it is for these women to be who they want to be. Every day they have to justify being in this world.

Earlier when we had walked to the table I soon saw other patrons eying and watching our group come through. I found myself deliberately looking those people in the eye, to non-verbally call them out on their judgement. I realize however, that i have the luxury of doing that. As a perceived heterosexual woman, i have the confidence and privileged of owning that ability. I found myself in a protective role, but it wasn't mine to take.

Each day the women i met last night have to go to work, run errands and live life. Yet along the way they may be scrutinized for who they are. Each day they have to justify to everyone they encounter; the mail person, the person behind the check out counter at the pharmacy or the person who answers the phone to make dinner reservations, who they are.

It takes a lot of courage and strength to face those challenges every day. I am inspired.